If you’re the parent of a teenage girl, then it’s likely you never say the right thing. Ever. Say This, Not That (To Your Teenage Daughter) is your convenient, pocket-sized guide to asking and answering questions, starting conversations, and filling in the silence with your teen.

Say This, Not That (To Your Teenage Daughter) is based on the work of Cognition Builders, a 164-person firm that teaches families all over the globe how to have constructive conversations. The authors have selected the most common and confounding conversational quandaries families face, and solved them for you. Chapters in this little treasure cover a variety of situations familiar to any parent of teenage girls, such as: When She’s In a Mood; When Her Heart Is Broken; When the Phone Becomes an Appendage; and When She’s “Totally Stressed Out.”