A guidebook to help children who: hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry are controlling and punitive regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone do not really know how to 'like' someone, and definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something