RENT TEXTBOOKS

by: G. J. Schaefer with Tom Bekkers, M.S.W., A.P.S.W.

ISBN: 9780882823454 | 0882823450

The death of a spouse has a powerful impact on the widowed partner's life. However, there is a very distinct difference in the way males and females mourn the losses of loved ones. Most men work hard to keep their grief to themselves, maintain stoic emotional control and refrain from asking others for help.

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There are distinct differences in the manners in which men and women grieve. Men in particular keep grief to themselves, maintain emotional control, and refrain from asking for help. Divided into three parts, "P... MOREicking up the Pieces," "Healing from Within," and "Giving Back to Others,"The Widower's Tool Boxoffers men who have lost their partners a guide to helping identify and resolve the issues overwhelming them and to repairing their lives and moving forward. The areas covered include basic training in unfamiliar household systems, creating new traditions, using the prayer connection, finding new friendships, making a scrapbook, and facing the issue of unresolved emotions. Ultimately, this book channels grief into constructive tasks that enable the bereaved man to recreate a life that can be fulfilling once again.

Gerald J. Schaefer draws from his twenty-six-year career experience managing people and dealing with many of the issues facing him and his young sons after the loss of his wife to breast cancer. He has been a large capital Project Manager in the paper, pharmaceutical and, most recently, in the utility industry and has a chemical engineering degree from the University of Wisconsin. He lives with his two sons in Green Bay, Wisconsin. Tom Bekkers, MSW, APSW, is a licensed Psychotherapist/Advanced Practice Social Worker with over twenty years experience in professional counseling relating to patients and family members faced with the challenges of health situations, lifestyle adjustment issues, death and grief. Bekkers holds a Master's Degree from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. For more than two decades, he has worked in a hospital setting and serves as the facilitator of the "Understanding Grief" group and "Taking Time" cancer support group. He resides in Denmark, Wisconsin, with his wife and two daughters.