Coupling up is complicated-Dr. Harriet Lerner's marriage rules are not. Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Angergives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. It's a go-to-guide brimming with Lerner's signature clarity, wit, and warmth. Couples today operate in a time famine. One or both parties are likely to be hit by one stress after another, and marriage is the first thing to suffer. Here are memorable, easy-to-grasp rules to remind readers of their own good common sense-or to help them get off automatic pilot and do something different. Each rule is based on solid theory and Lerner's four decades of clinical experience. Marriage Rulesoffers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: *Calm things down and warm them up *Talk straight and fight fair *Listen well as a spiritual practice *Get a grip on intensity and "over talking" *Connect with a distant partner *Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws *Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness *Know how and when to draw the line *Take back your marriage when things fall apart So here it is-a treasure chest of lively, practical advice, to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better marriage and a willingness to practice.