We all have a desire to change something in our lives. We want to quit smoking, lose weight, or break away from toxic relationships. However, our disappointment when we don't succeed is so great that we often prefer not to try. Why is it so easy to give up? In How We Change, psychotherapist and sociologist Ross Ellenhorn draws on his experience in addiction treatment to examine what causes us to avoid disappointment and evade responsibility, future risks, and changes in our relationships. Here you will learn how you are evolutionarily programmed to protect yourself from disappointment in the face of failure, and how to be aware of the ten reasons you use for not changing. This book will forever alter your perspective on life and its challenges, and help you achieve the real change you seek.