Iris Krasnow's first book, Surrendering to Motherhood: Losing Your Mind, Finding Your Soul, was about yielding to the higher power of child-rearing. In Surrendering to Marriage, Krasnow offers a raw & penetrating portrait of modern marriage & the backbreaking work required to make it last. With funny, sexy, shocking stories of real marriages, real affairs, & real divorces, Surrendering to Marriage moves far beyond a how-to manual on twenty-five ways to make your marriage hot again; Krasnow has written a how-to book on surrendering to the reality that even the best of marriages cause as much misery as happiness. As she puts it: "Being married happily-ever-after doesn't guarantee that you get to be happy, & we shouldn't expect constant happiness or we'll constantly be disappointed. The straight truth about marriage is that we loathe our partners as much as we love them, that we feel lonely as much as loved, that marriage can be hell." Indeed, the author shows us time & time again that the basic components of a successful marriage have little to do with bursts of bliss, & everything to do with letting go of fantasy & surrendering to the grind of ordinary life.