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Have you ever been bewildered by the changes in your child and your sudden lack of effectiveness as a parent? When hugs and family fun have been replaced by silence, slamming doors and an ever-changing array of moods, you need new tools. Top teen expert Dr. John Duffy has encountered all of this and more in his family counseling practice and offers excellent advice, clear strategies and teen-tested solutions in The Available Parent.

John Duffy is a clinical psychologist and certified life coach with a thriving private practice in the Chicago area. Dr. Duffy works with both teens and adults and specializes in helping parents maximize satisfaction and minimize conflict in their relationships with their teenagers. In addition to clinical work, Duffy also consults with individuals, groups and corporations in a number of areas, including Emotional Intelligence, stress management, balancing work and family, conflict resolution, goal-setting and the power of thoughts in bringing about change. Dr. Duffy's highly satisfied clients include Sears, Allstate, General Electric, Household Financial, Exxon Mobil, Accenture, Bank of America and Hewitt Associates. The Duffy family lives in Chicago, Illinois.

Foreword	p. xvii
Prologue and Author's Note	p. xxi
Introduction	p. xxv
The Nature of Availability	p. xxv
Radical Optimism	p. xxviii
The Good-Enough Teenager	p. xxx
What Do I Know?	p. xxxi
Availability: Your Mandate as a Parent	p. xxxiii
Your Teenager's Wild World	p. 1
Too Much Data, Too Little Filter	p. 1
This Isn't Kansas Anymore	p. 3
The Adolescent Mind	p. 5
Social In-security	p. 6
Breaking Away	p. 7
The Nature of Teen Rebellion	p. 10
Sex	p. 12
Intimacy: More Than Hooking Up	p. 17
Body Image: The Locker Room Terror	p. 18
What about the Gay Issue?	p. 20
What Never Works	p. 23
Why Lectures Never Work	p. 23
Why Vicarious Living Never Works	p. 30
Why Micromanaging Never Works	p. 32
Why Snooping Never Works	p. 37
Why Underestimating Never Works	p. 39
Why Blinders Never Work	p. 43
Why Judging Never Works	p. 49
Why Smothering Never Works	p. 52
Why Coddling Never Works	p. 54
Why Overindulgence Never Works	p. 55
Why Bribery Never Works	p. 60
Why ôGood Cop, Bad Copö Never Works	p. 62
Why Waiting Never Works	p. 63
What Always Works	p. 67
Check Your Ego	p. 67
Don't Make It about You
Emotional Role-Modeling
Tapping Your Intuition
Gaining Traction	p. 82
Deposits in the Emotional Bank Account
Simple Acknowledgment
The Multiple Benefits of Laughter
The Ozzy Connection
Communication and Connection	p. 92
The Power of Music
Other Ways to Connect
The Friendship Debate
Shifting the Energy
Re-connecting
Protect Time	p. 110
Step Away from the iPhone!
u cn txt ur kid, k?
Calm, Clear Consequences	p. 116
Disciplinary Action
Punishment, Rewards, and Consequences
The Behavioral Contract
When to Say No: Following Your Intuition
See the Light	p. 125
Fondness and Admiration
Finding Those Corners Where Strengths Dwell
Supporting Your Teen's Interests
Building Self-Esteem or Self-Mastery
What about the Weird Kid?
Be the Change	p. 138
Inspiration by Example
When Not to Be Available: Parent as Consultant
Why Available Parenting Always Works	p. 147
Final Note: My Hope for You	p. 150
About the Author	p. 151
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The Available Parent Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens

The Available Parent Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens

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